He’s seen you, you have seen him. His eyes have lingered and he’s smiling, what do you do?

 

Ladies do not become arrogant and dismiss him. It hurts. If you are not interested, smile back and look away quickly, he will get the message pretty fast. You don’t have to be rude and hurtful to get your point across.

 

If you are interested, relax, take a steadying breath and try this:

• smile softly - your lips are fuller when relaxed and far more alluring.

• linger your eyes up and down him for the same length of time(roughly 6 seconds), do this calmly and reservedly not slutily!

• Once the 6 seconds are up. Look away.

 

If he’s interested, he will come to you. If not then he won’t and you don’t have to waste your time. Do not try another glance, you will come across desperate and needy, then the games over before it has even started! They like the chase, so give them the chase.

 

Once he comes over, he will probably offer to buy you a drink.

 

PRECAUTION: Ladies be sure to be with him the entire time at the bar whilst he is getting your drink, you don’t know this man and you must be careful incase he slips something into your drink. Don’t be scared but be aware!

 

Conversations flowing and you feel the connection, now what?

 

Here are 8 simple gestures that will drive him insane:

 

1) Touch your neck - his eyes will follow your fingers so stay reserved and classy, but watch as his mind wanders.

 

2) Fleeting Touches - men who are interested crave proximity, so if you do touch his arm for a few seconds then stop, he will be drawn closer to you like a magnet!

 

3) Keep the conversation light, pretty clean and your voice sultry - a high pitched squeaky voice is a boner killer, be sexy and smooth. If it’s loud, lean in slowly and say things in your sultry voice, the proximity of your lips will make him weak at the knees and your voice will make him think of how well you can say other things, like his name. 

 

NOTE: crude chat only attracts the scummy sleazes you try to avoid. 

 

4) Relax - he’s made the first move so he clearly thinks your hot, don’t let your insecurities ruin this moment for you.

 

5) DO NOT TALK ABOUT ANY OF THE FOLLOWING:

*Ex- partners *Problems at work *Family issues *Your in depth view on political movements *That rash you are worried about that won’t go away *Your 15 cats and all of their names.

 

Keep it light and fun, if your too much drama he will see you as problematic and damaged goods; which he will run from! Men do not have the capacity to take on a lot of information at one time, especially on a first encounter. Talk about things you have in common (sport, music, studies, career goals etc.) or what flows naturally but avoid the “heavy” topics.

 

6) Be playful and mysterious - if you play hard to get, they respond. Lingering that little bit longer to allow a harmless and subtle innuendo to settle in his mind, before laughing it off will get the point across that you are a relaxed, fun chick who is pretty damned sexy and confident.

 

7) Allowances - if he drops his hand on your knee, that’s fine, anything higher than middle of the thigh means he’s seeing how far he can push his luck. If so, simply correct it by putting your hand on his and moving it back to your knee. 

                                      Upper shoulder, neck, lower back and hand are also fine.

                                       Bum, high thigh and vagina = Inappropriate.

 

8) Dancing -Ladies, no twerking! If he asks you to dance, he wants to see you move.

                                    A good dancer = good in bed. 

So keep it clean, and torment him a little. Move your hands through your hair (practice with your mirror before you go out so you don’t look possessed by a demon), Smile and maybe let your tongue wet your lips subtly. If he dances behind you, you can brush up against him softly, but do not grind, twerk, or slut drop.

 

If you want to be seen as a powerful, sexy and wanted woman, do not do what a 16 year old desperate for male attention would do!!

 

Playing the game may take a bit of practice but once you’ve mastered the art there’s no looking back. Remember if you want to be treated a certain way, hold yourself to that standard, don’t lower it, no matter how cute he is. You are all beautiful, strong and sexy. Show them!

 

What are your favourite pick-up tricks?