To Text or Not To Text
So you’re back, you’ve done the eight gestures and you are reaping the benefits already! You’re totally into him, he seems to feel the same way… Now what?
With the overall first meeting out of the way, many women at this point tend to give in to what I like to call “TOP time” (temptation to please). Basically this means you like him and you want to please him in EVERYWAY possible, as soon as possible. This influx of feminine power and control is intoxicating, and you are made to feel like a sexual tigress! Massive turn on right?
Wrong. Don’t lose your head just yet, he’s got so much more to do — if you come across too eager to please, he will work LESS to please you! Don’t allow them power over you they have not yet even earned!
That is the question!
Okay you’ve either got his number, or he’s got yours… Now to play the WAIT GAME!! This applies to texts AND phone calls!
If you have his number, you need to leave it for a few days depending on how cocky he was. Do NOT text him on your way home, in a taxi, on the train et cetera.
Keep a cockiness scale for guidance! On a scale of 1-10: 1 being you had to pull him out of a corner just to get him to talk to you; to 10 — so cocky he refers to himself as Big Dick, consideration is key. My rule is:
1-5 = You wait two days
5-8 = Three days
8-10 = You sure you want him? Six days mininum.
Four Rules For Both Scenarios
1. Have A Social Life, No Phone Staring!
As the old girls say “a watched kettle never boils”. For all you know he may consider himself a “player” and decide to lose your number for a few days. If that happens, just relax and toy with the idea that you were so alluring that night he maybe scared of your raw sexuality! It happens! Go out and do stuff! Distract yourself. He isn’t that important yet that you are going to lose sleep over him.
2. Tit for Tat
My favourite (and probably most sadistic) rule. If he takes an hour to text back, so do you. If he takes a day to text back, so do you. He will very quickly learn that if he plays hard ball, you will play harder. He wants you to want him… and a conversation that takes over 3 days just to get preliminaries out of the way (any cats, siblings, family, etc) reduces his chances of getting you on his hook. The best bit is the trouble he’s experiencing is of his own doing! We need to treat them mean to keep them keen – advice from your friendly neighbourhood Scottish ice queen!
3. One is Plenty!
Ladies, if he doesn’t respond to a text, LEAVE IT! In a man’s mind; two texts means keen, three means desperate and four means holy-shit-why-did-I-give-this-psycho-bitch-my-number. If you go over the top you will not come across as the sexy, sensual and sultry goddess he met that night, you will become the crazy chick who stalked him after one encounter. SCARY!
4. Don’t Lie: Re-word the Truth
That’ll keep him guessing. When he does finally text and asks what you have been up to, don’t say nothing. This is a prime chance to wind him up and make him realise how in demand you are. That being said, don’t mention or make up names! You will forget! Then end up looking desperate and foolish. Keep it vague. Keep it light! An “Oh hey, how you doing?” is so much better than “What took you so long? Miss me?” Yikes!
For example, if you say you went out for drinks with the girls:
HIM = No threat, just chicks chatting and getting drunk.
If you say you went out with some friends:
HIM = Possible male involvement, jealousy pipes in, and he’s more eager to distract you--to remind you that he’s the one to be interested in, not other males.
To prove my point think about those creeps that keep texting you constantly even though you are not interested and you have done everything to tell them except actually saying so.
We follow these rules with people we aren’t really interested in and look how hard they pursue us.
It's not because you attract creeps, it comes down to the fact that you are treating the good ones to a free ride and the others to a seat on the curb. Turn the tables and make the good ones respect you before they get you.
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