The first date
Advice from the Ice Queen
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Oh how exciting! Whether you have followed my previous articles or have managed to use your feminine wiles to get a first date with this total hottie, go you!
This is the time to let yourself shine! Many men say that from the first date they were able to gauge compatibility, why? Well unlike the casual hookup, on a date you actually get to talk! You get to converse without the use of texts, Facebook, tweets, and cheeky Snap Chats ect.
That’s right, real LIFE Human Conversation!
However, this dying method of interaction is intimidating for a lot of women and as such they make mistakes…sometimes big mistakes.
So I want to point out a few dos and don’ts, just to give you an extra hand keeping your latest catch.
(If you want to, that is! Otherwise you could just release him back into the ocean.)
1) Picking an outfit
You want to show legs OR chest, not both! I’m old fashioned, I know but you really do have to pick one or the other.
Showing just one area keeps his imagination active, it makes him focus harder on the conversation at hand, giving you a slight edge.
Wear something you know you look drop dead in and make sure you can walk in the shoes you pick (bambi-on-ice is cute….only if you are a deer!)
Remember he likes you for how you look, lets make him love you for your personality!
2) Dinner Date?
Ladies if you are comfortable with your physical appearance, you don’t have to do this, but for women who are still a little unsure, I suggest eating a snack before you go out.
It curbs the hunger, and ensures your stomach wont make that cringe-worthy grumbling sound we all hated in school assembly! Nothing heavy though! Bloating before a date, not good.
Don’t be afraid to order a real meal. There is nothing more cliché than a girl who orders a salad. On the other hand a face covered in rib sauce isn’t always the best look.
3) Lady and the Tramp Style?
Please, please, please ladies do not check your teeth, adjust your makeup, slurp your soup or talk with your mouth full.
I shouldn’t have to explain why, just don’t do it! If you need to check your teeth or top up your make up, excuse yourself and go to the ladies.
Quick tip: if he is boring as shit, it’s perfectly acceptable to drink his body weight in alcohol. I have done this many a times. True, you get some funny looks, but then again you don’t care! You’re pissed!
4) Who Pays?
This is a bit fuzzy over in Australia, and not being a native Australian I have a very strong opinion about this, being that if he asked you out = he pays!
If a man asked me to go halves with him, knowing me I would politely smile and agree then lose his phone number and never talk to the cheap skate again!!.
Before you say anything, it’s nothing to do with being a diva, it’s the principle of going out on a date!
In my opinion if you offer to pay, he should decline. But to work out what’s right for you we’ve put together a guide to help you decide who pays when.
5) The Final Frontier!!...(sorry star trek geek)
Okay, you’ve been on your date, and it was everything you hoped for.
You both laughed, smiled, food was good, enjoyed each other’s company immensely and now its time to go.
You’re outside your building/train/taxi/car and the awkwardness starts to set in.
Girls if you feel he wants to kiss you but is too scared to make a move here’s a tip:
Come right up against him so your bodies are cms apart, do your best seductive face, go up onto your tip toes (if he is tall) and hover your lips over his for a second.
This small move will send his senses into overdrive because of the intimate proximity and will show that you want to kiss him as much as he wants to kiss you.
If he doesn’t and you have gotten the body language wrong, you can quickly switch it to a giggling kiss on the cheek, allowing you to maintain your decorum and dignity.
As young ladies, you can pick how far you want this kiss to proceed… to the front door or all the way to the bedroom, it’s your call.
Personally, I think that women don’t torment men as much as we used to, despite it being so much fun!
The longer you hold out on a guy, you feel more in control, and powerful.
If he’s a good guy, he will love the chase, if he’s not he will quickly give up if it’s not as easy as he thought to get into your pants.
This is a great way of sifting through the shitey, lying arseholes and finding someone worth holding onto.
Now I acknowledge that I may have left some of you wondering
“hang on, what about all the other stuff that happens on this date??”
Well, what happens the rest of your date is down to you and him.
If there is chemistry, your conversation will flow and you will find that your inhibitions start to fade.
A date is to allow both of you to evaluate your compatibility, meaning physical attraction is not the only card you want to have in play, there has to be some sustenance.
If not, well there is no amount of advice I can give. There are some people out there who model their personalities after bricks….sorry but you just can’t change that.
Happy Hunting Ladies!
Tell us your tips for a first date!