But for everyone else that doesn’t fall into that category, it is giving someone…well, you. Your most intimate, treasured and protected self that you hide fervently from the world around you. 

 

Each person will know what category they fall into, and it doesn’t make you a bad person to fall into the first or the second. 

Some would say we are too prudish nowadays, and that sex is just sex - an act that makes us feel good.

 

In this article I’m a little less concerned about the overall act and more concerned about the feeling after. 

You know when you are getting dressed and your brain tries to comprehend what just happened. If you feel cold, bare and used because after the act there was nothing (eg. No emotional connection, or attempt at) ... then you fall under the second category.

 

Before you start ask yourself; 

Do I trust them enough to do this?

Will he/she act differently afterwards?

Will I just be a hot topic for a gossip column or the beginning of a great novel?

 

The fact is we decide who we give ourselves to, and if you aren’t looking for anything other than sex that’s fine, GO AND OWN THAT ONE NIGHT STAND!

 

But for those looking for more than sex I say this:

Sex won’t fix a relationship, or randomly create one that isn’t even there.

If a person is in a relationship with you it’s because on some level they care for you, and if you aren’t ready for sex just yet, whether it’s because of trust issues, intimacy issues or just self respect, then they will respect you for it. 

 

Just know that the good ones will wait.

 

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