2) Give Yourself Time 

 

Nobody said getting older made things any easier!

If you have just had a bad breakup, allow time to grieve. Now for all the infuriated over-the-top-feminists out there - no, you are not grieving him, or what he put you through, but you are grieving the overall relationship (the good things your mind can’t seem to ignore now it’s all over).

 

 This “grief” period should only be allowed to take up to a MAXIMUM of seven full days of your time.

After the seven days, you need to start accepting yourself as being one person, instead of two.

Then, little by little start to repair what was damaged.

Long walks allowing the warm sun to kiss your delicate skin, feeling the grass on your hands, taking a deep breath of fresh air… Just an example.

Or if you’re from a less sunny country, go and play in the snow or let the rain fall gently on you and embrace the cool feeling.

 

The point behind this is to allow yourself the time to feel refreshed.

As my mother always says,

 

“Fake It Till You Make It”           -Mama Jordyn

 

This is a very Scottish way of saying if something isn’t right and it’s hurting you, put a face on, tell the world AND yourself it IS going to be okay, even if it’s not… and eventually the rest of you will believe it too.

Self-deprecation is not a good trait to have in your toolkit, girls.

 

3) A Girl’s Night Out is Just That... A GIRL’S night out 

 

Now for the fun stuff… well, sort of.

 

Nothing pisses me off more than when you are out with the girls, catching up, dancing and drinking and one of your friends turns into a bloody owl!

The head is constantly going round and round, checking men out and looking desperate.

If you waste your night searching ladies, guess what? You will find the men who have smelled your eagerness and desperation from a mile away (a.k.a., scumbags).

Your friends will feel like enablers responsible for your bad decision-making, rather than the buddies they are.

 

So instead, enjoy the night out with your friends - giggle, dance and have fun just enjoying each others company!

 

4) Walk With Your Head Held High

 

Being single isn’t the overwhelming, depressing burden all the Hollywood films lead you to believe. It’s actually invigorating if you do what’s best!

A little exercise, some hard work focused on bettering your life for the future, and a new, brighter outlook on life is all it takes.

If you aren’t comfortable enough in yourself to share your life with someone else, then you don’t have to!

It doesn’t matter how many of your friends are having babies or who is engaged. They are at the stage (or so they think) that they believe is the beginning of the rest of their lives. That doesn’t mean you have to share that view! We aren’t on the clock here!

 

5) Figure Out What Comes First!

 

And no I don’t mean WHO cums first… I’m talking about prioritising your life!

 

Set Goals.

Lose that weight that’s making you self-conscious.

Allocate relaxation/you time.

Be the best at your job.

Spend some time with your family.

Improve you.

 

The reason women nowadays get into relationships so quickly is because they are afraid to be alone. Why?

Why be afraid to have time to yourself? Wear no makeup? Watch whatever movie you want without someone flicking through the channels during ads? Oggle at gorgeous men? Be completely focused on your career?

 

I don’t know what you guys think, but to me… that doesn’t sound scary at all.

A lot of women spend their lives regretting decisions they made when they were young.

       

But regret is a pointless emotion that only causes depression, self-doubt and unease. That’s energy you could be devoting to anything else you want!

 

Keep it up girls, we all go through it.

And we get over it. That what makes us the strongest of all.

 

What are your secrets for putting yourself first?

 

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